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Why Rest Feels Like Cheating
Genuine, unearned rest is one of the rarer things people describe in therapy. In this blog, psychodynamic counsellor Kevin Ventris explores where the guilt around rest often comes from, and what it might be quietly protecting you from feeling.
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Why Loneliness Can Happen in a Crowded Room
Loneliness isn’t the absence of people — it’s the absence of feeling known by them. In this blog, psychodynamic counsellor Kevin Ventris explores why a full diary and a loving family don’t always cure loneliness, and what actually helps when the crowd around you isn’t the problem.
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What ‘Holding Space,’ ‘Triggered’ and ‘Boundaries’ Actually Mean
Therapy vocabulary has gone mainstream, but precision often gets lost along the way. In this blog, psychodynamic counsellor Kevin Ventris unpacks what “holding space,” “triggered” and “boundaries” actually mean clinically — and what’s usually lost when they’re used loosely.
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People-Pleasing – a Survival Strategy
People-pleasing often gets mistaken for kindness, but it’s rarely that simple. In this blog, psychodynamic counsellor Kevin Ventris explores the fawn response behind chronic people-pleasing, why saying no can trigger genuine anxiety, and what it actually takes to start becoming someone with preferences again.
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Why Perfectionism Isn’t About High Standards
Perfectionism gets mistaken for ambition, but it’s rarely about wanting things to be excellent. In this blog, psychodynamic counsellor Kevin Ventris explores the fear of getting it wrong that perfectionism is actually protecting against — and what it takes to start tolerating “good enough.”
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Why Talking About Your Childhood Still Matters (Even If You Had a ‘Fine’ One)
Not every meaningful pattern comes from a difficult childhood. In this blog, psychodynamic counsellor Kevin Ventris explores why even an ordinary, ‘fine’ upbringing quietly shapes how we love, argue, and ask for help as adults and why understanding it isn’t about blame.
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The Sunday Scaries Aren’t About Sunday
That familiar Sunday evening dread rarely has much to do with the working week ahead. In this blog, psychodynamic counsellor Kevin Ventris explores what the Sunday Scaries are really telling you, and why ignoring them tends to make Sundays shrink, not grow.
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Spider-Man: Brand New Day: What Peter Parker’s Grief Says About Being Human
What does a Marvel blockbuster have to do with grief? A psychodynamic look at Spider-Man: Brand New Day, exploring loss, identity and why staying busy is often a way of avoiding pain.
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AI Psychosis: When a Chatbot Becomes Your Confidant
We reach for chatbots because they never get tired of us — no bad days, no sighing, no memory of our worst moments. But when a screen becomes your main confidant, something important quietly goes missing. This post looks at AI psychosis, transference, and why real growth needs a listener who can occasionally say no.
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Burnout: The Role You Forgot You Were Playing
Burnout rarely means you’ve stopped caring — it often means you’ve been performing competence for so long you forgot it was a performance. A psychodynamic look at burnout, what it protects you from, and how burnout counselling can help.